Psychic Medium Reveals What Really Happens When We Die! With Kristina Jean

Kristina Jean 0:00

I sometimes feel the emotion of the spirit, because my mom is here, and she, she has shown me that she's actually re-experiencing our entire life together, as if she never died. You can actually, yes, you can actually go back in time. So,

Jannecke Øinæs 0:17

schizophrenia, psychosis, like people are hearing voices are actually hearing spirits.

Kristina Jean 0:23

It's hard to say, because I do believe psychosis is dangerous, and schizophrenia is dangerous, because sometimes you can hear things that aren't actually the truth. So, I feel like those people are maybe highly sensitive, but there is mental illness there, and it does need to be addressed, for sure, from my experience, too, any sort of mental disorders - schizophrenia, psychosis, narcissism, borderline anxiety, add depression - this all stems from trauma. So, that's that's the biggest lesson, is healing your trauma in this lifetime, like 99.9% of the spirits I've communicated with have regrets about the way that they were on earth. So, if you can work through all your issues while you're here, you don't need to continue any lessons in the afterlife. That is how you create heaven on earth, because heaven, hell, it's all just the mental state, it's not an actual place, so you can create that here.

Jannecke Øinæs 1:32

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Kristina Jean 1:50

Good, how are you?

Jannecke Øinæs 1:52

I'm good, and it's wonderful to meet you. I discovered you online, and I thought you had a lot of deep and good insights about the afterlife, and I love also your intention, because your intention is really to help and support those who are grieving through the connection to spirit, and you are a psychic medium, and even an animal communicator, and a trauma healer, and you have a huge following on Instagram, so people are really resonating with your deep insights, and then I get really curious about before we dive deep into all the questions about the afterlife, I get really curious about how you got into this, why you became so passionate about sharing wisdom and knowledge about the afterlife,

Kristina Jean 2:38

of course, so I actually was not a spiritual person, I didn't really believe in anything, I didn't know about anything until my mom passed away, and when she passed away, it was the most devastating thing for me, and I had to learn about everything about what happens after you die, so I literally like read every single book you could about the afterlife spirits people that had near death experiences, and it proved to me that there is an afterlife, and also six hours after my mom passed away, my dad was at a meeting, and this woman comes up to him and says, you know, your ex-wife says she's okay, and thank you for all the dinners, and that she's worried about how her daughter is going to handle her death, and my parents were divorced, and my dad would always take my mom out to dinner, and she never thanked him, so this was like really validating, and that was six hours after she passed away, so you know, in my healing journey, I went to psychic mediums that communicated with my mom, and it really helped me in my grief journey, so I wanted to learn how to do it for other people. So I took a lot of training, I took a lot of classes on it, and I basically taught myself how to communicate with spirits. And now I do it professionally to help other people.

Jannecke Øinæs 4:19

Oh, wow, that's really beautiful. I mean, it just feels so authentic. You're so in your heart, and I can feel that this is your life mission. At least to me, it just feels like that. And yes, I get curious, because you said that you, you've trained yourself to do this. Does that mean that we all can train ourselves, or do you think that you sort of had this ability, also like you had that skill, maybe since you were a child, I wouldn't know.

Kristina Jean 4:46

Yes, so I definitely have childhood trauma, but also I've always been a sensitive child, I've always been a sensitive person, you know, an empath. So I do feel that people that are more sensitive. Are better at this, but also, you know, I went to school for psychology. I always knew deep down that I wanted to help people. I always thought that I wanted to be a therapist, but it's really great because this is kind of that as well, you know. So it's a mixture of both. So, yeah,

Jannecke Øinæs 5:17

and from what I understand, you also became good at this through your mom sort of helping you to connect to the other side to connect to her but also to the other side and that she really showed you that she's still there, she's still existing. Can you take us through some of the signs that she showed you?

Kristina Jean 5:39

My mom literally communicates with me every day through signs, because I was a skeptic. I'm gonna admit, so she knew that she had to get my attention by doing big things, you know. And I appreciate all signs, right? There's the butterflies, the cardinals, you know, all the nature signs, but my mom knows me. She knows I want the big stuff. So she has shown her name, her name is Deborah. She's shown her name, Deb, on over like 50 license plates, and she's shown her initials, DJ P, numerous times on numerous license plates. I actually have a video up about this with the pictures of them. Yeah, I mean, never a day goes by where there is not someone named Debbie that, like, messages me, or even sometimes I'll be doing a reading and I'll connect with a spirit that just feels like my mom, and then come to find out the spirit passed the same way she did, like breast cancer, and it's just like the synchronicities that they put in your life to show you that they're still there is just amazing.

Jannecke Øinæs 6:52

And do you also communicate with her telepathically, or do you hear her voice? Like, how is it working for you?

Kristina Jean 6:59

Yeah, so when a spirit communicates with you telepathically, it's usually in your own voice, but it's like something they would say, and also, so it can be hard to differentiate you making it up or the spirit, but so it's easier for me to do a reading for someone else, actually, because you know I have no bias towards it, whereas, like, with my mom, I know her so well, so, and she's around all the time, so it's kind of hard to differentiate her versus me, but I've gotten better at it a lot of times. I do better when I'm in a meditative state, which is, like, for me, it's bike riding, driving, dancing, it kind of takes the logical mind away, and then gets you in that intuition, and that's when you can hear them the best, in my opinion. Um, but yeah, it's, it's usually they communicate with you through your own intuition, so it's like simple things you might not even notice, like, hey, I'm gonna drive here instead of there, I'm gonna go this way instead of that way, you know, meeting this person, they put people in your life, they just, they synchronize things in your life, and you might not even know it's them doing it, but they are

Jannecke Øinæs 8:13

all right, and I've also heard you talk about that we choose how the afterlife is, and we manifest the afterlife with our thoughts and I'm curious about that, because that entails a lot, like what if you had a lot of disturbed thoughts in this incarnation, just as this human, and from my perspective, I believe we have very many lives, or we can choose to have many lives, so what if in my incarnation I had a mental disorder, and I had a lot of negative thoughts, and there I am in heaven, just recreating the same. Who would I be in heaven? I know there's a lot of questions here, but yeah, just share if you could share your perspective on how we choose our afterlife experience,

Kristina Jean 9:03

so as soon as you, you pass away, you go through a life review where you see everything you did, the good, the bad, the ugly, how it affected people. You feel that on a deep level, it's no opinion, it's no ego, it's just is what it is, and you understand the truth of everything, so there's full understanding right away from there. Sometimes there is a period of time where a spirit does need to kind of let go of the human ego, because, and from my understanding, from what I've seen during readings, and from my own experience with my mom, when the, when the person that's on earth is still holding on to pain, trauma, resentment from what the spirit did to them, it actually affects the spirit in a way, because they're kind of still working through it as well with you, because we're so connected, so they. Feel all those things that you're dealing with, so I don't want to say it holds them back, because it surely doesn't, but it's kind of a mutual growing process together, which is beautiful, you know. And I've never encountered a spirit that was in hell, because there is no hell, it's just your state of mind. So, and here's an example. I communicated with a spirit who sexually abused his daughter, and when I spoke to him, he admitted this, but he also said, like, "Oh, I was just teaching her these things, you know. So he didn't take accountability for what he did. He didn't understand the greater thing behind it. He was still holding on to that human aspect of justifying his behavior, in my opinion. In that context, that would be considered hell, because you're still stuck in your human ego, and you're not understanding that you did wrong. I've done 1000s of readings, I've only come across that one time, and again, that spirit had just recently crossed over. So, the more time that they are in spirit, the more time they can let go of that. Sometimes it takes a year in human time, you know. Sometimes it takes two. Never really seen it go beyond that, you know. But, but yes, in that way we can create our own hell just by holding on to the anger, the resentment, the the ego, basically. But most spirits do let that go, because they see the full picture and they understand.

Jannecke Øinæs 11:38

Yeah, heard many times that we have, like, our free will is really important. It seems like an important concept to this universe, and that we can actually choose. Like, there have been a lot of near-death experiences that are negative, where people have been saying that I had a negative, so-called negative experience, because I had very dogmatic religious beliefs, like I believe that I was going to be punished because I kissed that boy when I was seven, and the church said that I wasn't allowed to, and they believe that they've done something wrong, and then they die, and they get that punishment, like they are experiencing a hellish experience, until something like the scene changes. It seems like the scene often changes, like obviously I haven't heard every near death story there is, but in my experiences, I've heard that once they sort of surrender or let go or ask for help, the light comes in, or the scene changes, and it becomes, comes really beautiful. Is that, is that your experience?

Kristina Jean 12:52

Definitely. And that's that's when people say that we create our own afterlife, you know? If someone truly believes that they're going to be punished, they will experience that when they cross over, but they're always given the option, they're always shown that this is not where they have to stay in their thinking, you know. So, yes, like thoughts are powerful, but that's even on earth, our thoughts are powerful, you know. We, we have complete control over our life just based on our thoughts. Actually, it's really important. So, yeah, and also, too, I've seen people that experience hell during an NDE. It's because a lot of times in their life they were going in a very bad direction with drug abuse, you know, taking advantage of people like just going a really dark path, so they had to experience that to kind of wake up and realize, like, I'm going down a dark path in my life, and then they change after that, it fully completely changes them,

Jannecke Øinæs 13:54

yeah, very drastically, so as well, and I think there's a meaning and purpose why so many are coming forward with our and ease. I'm not sure if there's more people having them or if it's just like more okay to talk about it like it's not so frowned upon or judged anymore. Are you also of the thought that we're in this big shift of consciousness where the veil is becoming thinner and more and more people are sort of waking up to their abilities,

Kristina Jean 14:26

definitely. Yes, I definitely feel that.

Jannecke Øinæs 14:29

So, moving back to the afterlife and the experiences we might have, so when you sort of.. no, no, not sort of.. when you go over, who are you then? So I'm here, Janneke, and you are Christina. Who are we on the other side if we've lived 1000s, maybe millions of different lives and incarnations? It's so funny because I've often asked this question as well when I communicate with.

Kristina Jean 15:00

Spirits, they definitely keep their personality, and they also keep their interests. They have the same interests on the other side. They show me, so we can recreate the life that we loved here. So we do always keep that individual aspect of ourselves and our past lives. They're actually co-current lives, because there is no time, so past, present, and future lives are all happening simultaneously, and we can connect to our past lives through memories coming up, deja vu, you know, and we can even connect with our future lives, actually, and in my experience, we actually are oversoul, which is the larger part of our soul. The way that I like to explain it is like the palm of your hand. This is the oversoul, and each finger are the different incarnations, and they're all happening at the same time. So, the oversoul will get all the information from all these different lives, and it collects as the learning experience. So, that's why this person can tap into all these, you know, so it's amazing, but when we die, we still keep that individual self, we just, we have a full recognition of all the other experiences and lives as if we lived them. It feels like that.

Jannecke Øinæs 16:20

Can I also sort of go into and merge with the oversoul and sort of forget about those, but just become the oversoul,

Kristina Jean 16:28

that's always a choice. Yes,

Jannecke Øinæs 16:31

and that's maybe existing then on a higher sort of frequency or level.

Kristina Jean 16:36

Yeah,

Jannecke Øinæs 16:36

what about like that? Does this include extraterrestrial lives, like incarnations on other planets, as well. Like, yeah, interesting. So, when you're saying that we can recreate the life we have here on the other side, so how does that look like? How physical do the other side feel like, or how physical is it? If it's physical at all,

Kristina Jean 17:03

it can become very physical. Sorry, like sometimes I feel the emotion of the spirit, because my mom is here, and she, she has shown me that she's actually re-experiencing our entire life together as if she never died. You can actually, yes, you can actually go back in time, so you know she wasn't always mentally in the, in a good place when she was on earth, so a part of her feels regret in that, but she can actually experience me being a child again, and her living that experience, and it's actually you and me there, because our higher self is always in spirit. We only take a very small portion of ours in our human existence, so there's a greater part of us that's actually with them in spirit right now, and I know that's a crazy concept for the human mind to understand, but yes, that, that is what my mom has made me experience and feel and see and experience with her, because after she died, I just started getting all these like flashbacks of my childhood and like being with my mom in those moments, and whenever I connect with her and I see her, it's usually in my mind's eye, she's always in her 30s, you know, and a lot of spirits do portray themselves at that age, because it's a lot of times it's the best part of their life in their 30s.

Jannecke Øinæs 18:32

I've heard that before, and my mom had this same experience with her father, he was showing up in her room, she had a dream. She was in a very tough time in her life, and she was dreaming, and I'm allowed to share this story. She was dreaming about a monk who had this hood over his head, and then he slowly turned around, and she started waking up, and it, he materialized in front of her, the foot of the bed, and he was so beautiful, he was in a white wardrobe, he was in his 30s, he just looked so beautiful, and he was just standing there, and she was reaching out to him, and she was like, he was so physical, and then he just evaporated out of thin air, and I'm never, you know, I know my mom, she's very down to earth, she has never experienced something like that, but I'm sure that he visited her, and it's interesting, like you said, that you know they show themselves as in their 30s, and I'm also fascinated by that. I heard again and again that heaven or the other side feels quite physical, and that's also my experience, because I haven't had any ease, but I've been out of my body. I've had several out-of-body experiences, and they have felt so physical, like I've been touching the wall. And I've been touching things and I've felt that, oh my gosh, this feels more physical than even my physical life. How is that possible? Yeah, and yeah, yeah, it's fascinating. It's fascinating.

Kristina Jean 20:14

Yeah, that's called astral traveling, astral projection.

Jannecke Øinæs 20:18

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And speaking of that, the astral realm, so what is that then to you? How do you look at the astral realm? Because to me, I look at it, I've learned that when I am asleep, my astral body goes out of my physical body or my spirit, and then I travel around in the astral realm, and then I can meet deceased ones and souls and being a different dimensions and I can meet extraterrestrials and all that, but is the astral realm really the afterlife in a way?

Kristina Jean 20:50

Yes, I believe it's no different. I believe we do go travel to the astral realm afterlife while we're sleeping, and a lot of times we don't remember it. We might get downloads of information to help us through this life, and not even remember sometimes. And some people do remember, you know, having dreams of deceased loved ones. That's a visitation dream, that's actually them visiting you.

Jannecke Øinæs 21:19

That makes sense. And just going back to what you said about your mom reliving your lives together in a, you know, beautiful way, like beautiful version, that is, that is wonderful. I've been thinking about that too, that I would love to live my life again, like portions of my life, actually. So, wow, so that is really possible. Yeah, why wouldn't it? That's a wonderful thought.

Kristina Jean 21:46

We can experience anything that we want.

Jannecke Øinæs 21:50

All right, so what about coma? What happens to the soul when we're in a coma?

Kristina Jean 21:57

I've communicated with people that had Alzheimer's, dementia, coma, even people that are in like severe psychosis can come through as if they've passed, so it's really hard for a psychic medium to differentiate if someone's dead or just going through a psychosis or Alzheimer's or dementia. It feels exactly the same when they communicate and they come through that way. I've actually had experience with this. My ex-boyfriend, I thought he had passed away because I hadn't heard from him for years, and I was going to psychic mediums and he kept coming through, but it turns out he was actually alive, just in a severe psychosis, so that was shocking to me, because I like, I actually grieved his death for a long period of time, so, and he gives me signs all the time, as well, so I know that his human self, you know, is not fully present in the body, so then a larger portion is actually on the other side, communicating through signs, through coming in through readings, I mean, it's pretty wild,

Jannecke Øinæs 23:20

yeah, so to understand what's happening here, you mean actually that they're not so present in their physical body, they're more sort of present in their spirit, which means that they're communicating from another place.

Kristina Jean 23:32

Yeah, yeah,

Jannecke Øinæs 23:34

all right. But do you think, like, I'm jumping a bit - schizophrenia, psychosis, like people who are hearing voices, they're actually hearing spirits.

Kristina Jean 23:45

I do, but that doesn't - it's hard to say, because I do believe, like psychosis is dangerous, and schizophrenia is dangerous, because sometimes you can hear things that aren't actually the truth, so I feel like those people are maybe highly sensitive, but there is, there is mental illness there, and it does need to be addressed for sure. And sorry, from my experience, to any sort of mental disorders, schizophrenia, psychosis psychosis, narcissism, borderline anxiety, add depression. This all stems from trauma. So, once you work through the underlying cause, which is the trauma, then we can really get to the root of fixing all the core, more mobilities, you know, it's always from trauma, so that's that's the biggest lesson, is healing your trauma in this lifetime, because I've communicated with like 99.9% of the spirits I've communicated. With have regrets about the way that they were on earth, so if you can work through all your issues while you're here, you don't need to continue any lessons in the afterlife. It's better to work through all of these things while you're here on earth, that's that's the point. So you don't have to do any of that on the other side, and that's sorry, that is how you create heaven on earth, because heaven, hell, it's all just the mental state, it's not an actual place, so you can create that here,

Jannecke Øinæs 25:37

yeah, because I think many can think that you know, once I go to the other side, it will just be blissful and beautiful, and I won't have my issues anymore, but you're actually saying that will drag them along to the other side.

Kristina Jean 25:53

Of course, it's easier to see the bigger picture on the other side and have full understanding without the ego involved, so you know you can, you can really work through it quite quickly on the other side, and it always does happen. It's not like on earth, where you can spend your whole life dealing with that. It's kind of very quickly when you pass over, you, you, it's just like full understanding. So there's kind of no choice but to heal and understand, but my goal is to get people to do that work here, so we don't have to do that on the other side,

Jannecke Øinæs 26:32

and what do we then do on the other side if we're done healing? I'm not sure if it's possible to be done with healing, I feel like we're healing, like that's part of I don't know, I don't know if I agree with myself now, but I feel like it's part of the evolution of the soul, sort of to heal in a way, or to grow, or expand, or to love itself more.

Kristina Jean 26:54

Yeah,

Jannecke Øinæs 26:54

I don't know,

Kristina Jean 26:55

so I think that's what past, present, and future lives are. This is kind of crazy to say, but so another incarnation that you currently have right now could be the more healed version, essentially, so the fully healed, you know, and maybe, maybe sometimes in this particular lifetime someone's not meant to heal, maybe that's a part of their plan, but of course they have other incarnations that are happening simultaneously, and one of those are going to be fully healed, so that's why we incarnate numerous times,

Jannecke Øinæs 27:36

and you said we could tap into our future lives, you mean like in this life,

Kristina Jean 27:41

yeah,

Jannecke Øinæs 27:42

and how could we do that, and would that be sort of another version of Janneke, or would that be maybe Tom, or yeah, right, it's

Kristina Jean 27:53

completely different person, it's just a part of the same oversoul,

Jannecke Øinæs 27:58

right, and how would I tap into that, and what would be the benefit of doing that? In a way,

Kristina Jean 28:05

I, through meditation, you can just ask the question, you know, and you will get the answer. You will be shown the answer. You just have to trust what you're getting, always, because it always feels like you're making it up. So, you kind of just always have to trust yourself with what the information that you receive in terms of benefit, because I've seen like a future life of myself where you know I had children and I really loved being a mom, but in this incarnation as Christina it's just not for me, and that's okay, you know, like, so in terms of benefit, there's always something to learn, but you can always tap in with your higher self, your oversoul to learn, and also from my experience with dealing with difficult situations in life, just asking spirit, what is the higher purpose behind this, because there always is, always is even the difficult parts of our lives we agree to for a learning benefit. There's always a deeper purpose behind everything that happens.

Jannecke Øinæs 29:12

And speaking of that, difficulties, I know you've had a video where you addressed when people, some people choose to opt out of this life. Now, there are different perspectives on that. What is your perspective on making that choice from a metaphysical perspective?

Kristina Jean 29:35

So, I used to think that when we take our life, it's not a part of the plan, it's always, you know, the choice of free will, but as I've communicated with more spirits that have taken their life, I've noticed sometimes it is actually part of that soul's plan, maybe they were going to pass away soon anyway from a different cause, but and of course there are. Are some spirits who highly regret it, but which is the majority, of course, but I have commuted with, communicated with some spirits who are like, oh, that life was just so difficult, like it's just good to be out of there, you know. So I think it's always situational, depending on the soul, the spirit, like I said, some spirits and some people might feel like they're not going to live a long life, and they'll say that in life, because I'll be communicating with the spirit, and they said they would tell me I always knew I was going to live a short life, and then I would tell the client, I said, did he always think that he was going to die young, and they would say, yeah, he always talked about that, so your higher self, your soul, like always has kind of a recognition and internal knowing of when, and sometimes it doesn't, of course, but there is connections,

Jannecke Øinæs 30:55

and the day we're going to die, we're all going to die, so that is that is a sure thing. Is that date or day or time is that predestined? Do you think?

Kristina Jean 31:12

I think it's pre-chosen by us, so you know when they say, like, because there's always the people that say, oh, we have free will, or we don't have free will. So we have free will in the sense that we chose everything before we came here, but when we're here it was already preset by you, so it doesn't feel like you have a lot of free will. It's kind of like a conundrum, you know.

Jannecke Øinæs 31:41

Interesting, we can only blame ourselves, right? Fascinating. And back to those who opt out of life, I just feel this is important to address. You also have the perspective that there is no judgment, right?

Kristina Jean 31:56

No, we judge ourselves,

Jannecke Øinæs 31:58

right? Right. Okay. Could you take us through, like, what happened immediately after we die? Because I think a lot of people are afraid to die. Is there anything to be afraid of?

Kristina Jean 32:14

Not at all. We're instantly greeted by all our past loved ones, our spirit guides, our pets, and there's a full, complete understanding and knowing, so you know, a lot of people think, like, oh, you know, they didn't get to have a full life, they didn't get to experience this and that, but the soul, the oversoul, has experienced all those things, so this person feels and and resonates, and that's these are all part of the same thing, right? So we have experienced everything, so there's no longing, or like, oh, I missed out on something, oh, I want to come back, like there's none of that, because all of our lives are happening simultaneously, so there is no coming back, there is no reincarnation, it's like simultaneous incarnation, which is amazing, because that was something that I struggled with. I was like, I don't want to come back, like it scared me, and I was like, oh my god, like I really don't want to come back, like I'm done. And then, like, people say, like, oh, you have to come back, none of that is true, it's all happening at the same time. Thank God, of course. You have that experience if you like, if you want to, but I'll pass.

Jannecke Øinæs 33:33

So, what is your perspective on then? Angels, higher guides, masters, and even God, because we've been speaking about spirits. What about these higher evolved beings? Where sort of do you put them, and what is your perspective on them?

Kristina Jean 33:51

Yeah, so I, you know, spirits, when I've communicated with them, have brought up meeting Jesus, you know, and I've seen Jesus in the readings, so he comes through. God is not a man, not a person, never was. It's the source, the universe. There's plenty of different names for it. It's where we all come from. We are all a piece of the source. We are all a piece of God. The plant, the ant, the bug, the cat, the human. We're all a part of source. It's just source breaking off into little aspects to experience itself through individuals, that's all it is. So we are all source, we are all God.

Jannecke Øinæs 34:30

Yeah, that's actually what I believe as well. What is your noun jumping to the times you find ourselves in, which are pretty chaotic times as a psychic medium, what is your metaphysical perspective on everything we're seeing? The horror from the Epstein files, the wars, the polarities. How do you see these times?

Kristina Jean 34:54

I think it's showing us the polarities, and it's opening our eyes like the Epstein files. You know, I think you know how you were talking about earlier about the awakening. That's what this is. It's, it's about uncovering the truth, the dark versus light. There's always dark versus light, that's the whole earth experience. We wouldn't come to earth if we didn't want to experience duality, because there is no duality in afterlife. It just is love and light. So, we literally only come here to experience the duality, the darkness, because we can't experience it there. So, when people say hell, the closest thing you'll ever get to hell is earth. Sorry, but it's true. But you can experience heaven on earth just by working through your trauma, healing yourself, being in that mindset, that's the importance, that is, that is the whole actual plan of being able to experience that while you're in human, human form,

Jannecke Øinæs 35:56

and the darkness. Where does that come from? Is that just because we forget who we are,

Kristina Jean 36:03

yeah, the brain is like a program, so as soon as we're born, the programming starts, and it's not just programming from this current life. I mean, we're talking about past life programming, we're talking talking about epigenetics, we're talking about trauma passed down generationally that's instilled into the soul, so to get rid of all that takes a lot of work, and I've been on a very long healing journey to do this. It's been very, very difficult, but that's part of the process. It's kind of deprogramming the program, that's all it is. The brain is just the program, so once you do all that, then you get closest to your highest self, your true soul self. That's the goal here.

Jannecke Øinæs 36:50

And speaking about trauma, I know you're passionate about helping people with grief. What is sort of the best way to move through grief? Because sometimes I think we can be shameful about the grief. Sometimes I think we can feel expectance from or expectations from others that we're going to be done with grieving now. So, what are your thoughts about how we can, in the best way, in a way, take care of ourselves in a grieving process?

Kristina Jean 37:22

Great. grieving has so many different aspects, you know, especially like if you had a bad relationship with the loved one that's passed, and that's why readings are so beneficial, because every time the spirit will apologize and validate everything that the client experienced. from the spirit, so there's a full understanding on the spirit's end, so that definitely helps with the grief process. But, of course, a reading is not going to take away your grieving process. That takes time. I mean, for me it took at least three years to be in a, like, a norm, like, kind of like back to somewhat normal. It's very difficult, and it's, it's a very long process, and that's everyone's own journey, of course. Mediums like myself can only help with that, you know, through communication with spirit, but there is a lot that you just have to process on your own, but also it's really important to have a connection with your loved ones in spirit, and talk to them, and ask them to show specific signs. You know, I asked my mom all the time to show specific signs and communicate with me, and that's why she does it all the time. The more that you acknowledge them, the more that you acknowledge spirit, the more they will show you, so it's just about trusting, believing, and knowing, and always keeping that connection. Because love never dies, the connection never dies. Just because they're in spirit doesn't mean it's over. Sometimes that's a part of the plan. Sometimes that you could only grow through having them through in spirit, you know, they can help you more on the other side than they could when they were here physically. Sometimes that's a part of the soul contract.

Jannecke Øinæs 39:09

That's so beautiful. And how do we know that they're here?

Kristina Jean 39:16

Just by asking. You can ask for specific signs, you know. You can ask, like, you know, with my mom, I asked for her name or her initials, or I mean, you could get super specific, or if you want, you could do, like, you know, a yellow butterfly, or a red cardinal, or hearing a specific song on the radio, anything, you know, spirit is capable of amazing things,

Jannecke Øinæs 39:41

but we have to ask.

Kristina Jean 39:45

It's more validating for you to ask, because then you know for sure, like that's them, because a lot of times people will see a sign, and then they'll dismiss it, like, oh, it's just a coincidence, or, oh, it's just a random butterfly, or a random cardinal, you know, so. That's why I like to ask, because then you're, you're definite, you know, you're, and also they love, they love when you communicate with them. So, just having that open connection, they love it. It gives them more energy to show you, you know.

Jannecke Øinæs 40:14

I just got the thought, and not to put you on the spot, but would it be possible that you would connect to any one of my loved ones on the other side.

Kristina Jean 40:23

Sure, I do like to just get a name, just so we go to the one.

Jannecke Øinæs 40:28

All right. Wonderful. Well, I guess it is my grandmother, Mommo.

Kristina Jean 40:34

Okay, just take a moment.

Kristina Jean 40:42

Interesting. Okay, so the first thing that she's bringing up, do you know, did she ever lose a child, a miscarriage or an abortion, or a child, because she's bringing up a male in spirit with her, and it feels like a child. Or did you ever have a miscarriage or an abortion?

Jannecke Øinæs 40:56

I did.

Kristina Jean 40:57

Okay, so she's acknowledging being with that soul. It's a boy, so I don't know if you knew what it was, but she's saying that you've actually heard her call your name before in your mind, have you?

Jannecke Øinæs 41:21

I I don't know, I don't know, I wouldn't remember.

Kristina Jean 41:26

Yeah, just keep that in mind, because a lot of times it will be our own voice, and it feels like we're just making it up, but that is how they communicate through your own mind. She is talking about leaving like a place of like war, or she was in like this difficult era where she had to like kind of flee. Does that make sense?

Jannecke Øinæs 41:53

Gosh, I don't know too much about.. I mean, I know that she lived through the war, but I don't know much about the details of that.

Kristina Jean 42:00

Okay, she's just acknowledging that she's also talking about a family name that was passed down. Does someone have her name?

Jannecke Øinæs 42:16

No.

Kristina Jean 42:17

Okay, do It's interesting, because she's bringing up the name thing again, and it seems like a nickname or something that she had that someone else has, or that uses this nickname, like there's, but there's a connection with you and her and this kind of name, like, I don't know if you have a child that you named after her, or like something, but there's some connection with a family name in respect to her and you,

Jannecke Øinæs 42:54

her name was Nora Elizabeth, but we don't have any in the family call that now,

Kristina Jean 43:01

okay, keep that in mind. Do you do writing? Yeah, writing. Okay,

Jannecke Øinæs 43:14

yeah. I'm writing a book now. Oh, nice.

Kristina Jean 43:17

She's saying that she actually helps you with this. She's talking about, like, almost like you channel spirit when you're doing this, actually. So that's amazing.

Jannecke Øinæs 43:29

But is there anything she could say? So I'm absolutely sure you know, a validation that this is her, that only I would know, that it's not too private,

Kristina Jean 43:46

she's talking about was there ever a time where you struggled, like getting pregnant?

Jannecke Øinæs 43:53

Yes.

Kristina Jean 43:54

Okay, she is acknowledging that, so she wants you to know that she was around that time and she was aware of that. That she very much has a connection to roses, she's telling me, as well. So, I don't know if you ever smell like a smell of perfume or floral smell, but that is a sign from her. She's telling me,

Jannecke Øinæs 44:19

yeah, that makes sense,

Kristina Jean 44:26

She dealt with a lot in life, but she was a very strong woman, and she just pushed through, like you wouldn't know, she would never complain about it, she would just, you know, she just lifted herself up, and she just got through it, she was so strong, so independent,

Jannecke Øinæs 44:43

for sure.

Kristina Jean 44:50

Yeah, she's talking about this new journey that you're on in your life. It's, it's amazing, you know. You've been through a lot in your life, and there's this kind of. It's like a new awakening, a new journey. She's giving me chills with this. It's just.. it's really big. Are you.. are you connected to Gaia, the show Gaia?

Jannecke Øinæs 45:11

Well, we're collaborating with them.

Kristina Jean 45:14

Okay, cool. Yeah, she's just acknowledging that.

Jannecke Øinæs 45:17

Okay, my grandmother is into Gaia.

Kristina Jean 45:24

We know everything,

Jannecke Øinæs 45:27

huh? Does she have, like, a message for me?

Kristina Jean 45:35

You're gonna be very well known, she's saying so. That's amazing. Um, do you feel like you have connection to Pleiadians?

Jannecke Øinæs 45:45

Yes,

Kristina Jean 45:46

she's acknowledging that as well, that that's true.

Jannecke Øinæs 45:49

Oh, that's nice. That's very nice. Yeah, well, I do miss her a lot. Is she excited about Wisdom From North?

Kristina Jean 46:01

Yes,

Jannecke Øinæs 46:02

does she like.. sorry,

Kristina Jean 46:06

she's aware of everything you're doing in your career and everything in her life. They're, they're always around.

Jannecke Øinæs 46:14

Yeah, I wish she was here to experience my husband. She never got to meet him, but I bet she likes him,

Kristina Jean 46:22

He is a handsome one, she says

Jannecke Øinæs 46:24

yes,

Kristina Jean 46:29

she, she's cute, she's funny. She liked men,

Jannecke Øinæs 46:36

she was into men for sure. Is she with my grandfather.

Kristina Jean 46:47

She's really funny. She's, she's very.. yes, she is. And she's very much kind of the one who was like in control. I want to say,

Jannecke Øinæs 46:57

sure.

Kristina Jean 46:57

Like, she just tells him how it is, you know? This is how things need to be done. It's, it's her way, you know,

Jannecke Øinæs 47:06

that is funny. Well, that was lovely. Do you have anything more you want to have come across from your connection with her right now?

Kristina Jean 47:21

Just keep doing what you're doing, and don't let the blocks get in the way, because she's saying, you know, there has been some difficulties with you progressing in this area, but she says, just don't let it get you down, keep going.

Jannecke Øinæs 47:37

Well, that's lovely. Well, thank you so much. Thank you so much for connecting. Like, we didn't agree on this before, so, but yeah, you seem very secure in what you're doing. And my experience is that when you - I've been to many readings - that when you start to talk, it's almost like you need to establish a connection, and then it gets stronger in a way, it starts to flow more in the beginning, it's like a bit of a hesitation, and and then it starts to to flow. Yeah, that's just

Kristina Jean 48:08

it's it's not just me and spirit, it's a three way connection between spirit, me, you, you know, it all flows together. So if someone comes into the reading super, you know, closed off, it makes it more difficult for the spirit connection, because the person is blocked. Do you know what I'm saying? I mean, that doesn't happen often. Most people that get a reading, they're open to it, but I've had had that experience, and it, it kind of feels like you're pulling teeth with the spirit, but also, if a spirit was quiet in life, they're gonna be quiet on the other side too, like they don't lose their personality. So, sometimes I'll get a spirit, and it's like really difficult to get information from them, or like communication. I'm like, uh, was your grandpa like really quiet in life and didn't talk a lot? They're like, yeah,

Jannecke Øinæs 49:00

that is funny. Wow. Well, thank you so much. I have some final general questions that I ask everyone, and my first one is, what is the deepest spiritual insight you've received on your journey?

Kristina Jean 49:15

I think it's about the healing of the trauma, and how you know the brain is just a program that is instilled as soon as we're born and we have to treat it as if it's an actual computer program to deprogram the programming and that can happen from past lives that can happen from generational trauma epigenetics of course and then just this life trauma, right? So we're not just healing one life trauma, we're healing past lives, we're healing generational trauma. So it's a lot of work, and I've had to experience this myself, and it's been extremely intense the last six years, like I've been doing it for a while now, but that's getting us back. Back to our soul self, the soul, the infinite soul. Before we came to earth, where we got all these programmings, and you know how they're talking about neuroplasticity, we can reprogram the program. It's not set in stone,

Jannecke Øinæs 50:20

and the program is that the matrix,

Kristina Jean 50:22

it's the brain, it's the brain programming, like I said, trauma, epigenetics, past lives, it's all of that human, human programming.

Jannecke Øinæs 50:34

What is self love to you?

Kristina Jean 50:41

Loving yourself unconditionally, even with the shadows, being able to make peace with the shadows, is really important. So, what I've learned on my journey is sometimes the people that trigger you the most are actually your greatest teachers. They're trying to show you aspects of yourself that you don't like about your own self, actually, and sometimes it will be a mirror for you to learn about your shadows, things you need to heal within your own self. So, if we always ask, what the greater lesson is behind bad things that happen, or our mental state, there's always a greater purpose, regardless.

Jannecke Øinæs 51:20

And what is the deeper meaning of life from your perspective

Kristina Jean 51:26

to get back to where we started to deprogram the program, and that's the hardest part, because we get, yeah,

Jannecke Øinæs 51:37

sorry,

Kristina Jean 51:38

yeah, yeah, we get, we get stuck in the ego, we think we're the ego,

Jannecke Øinæs 51:42

right? So, in a way, to re-remember who we are, who we truly are,

Kristina Jean 51:49

exactly.

Jannecke Øinæs 51:49

Yeah. Where can people find you if they want to follow you, connect with you, maybe have a reading, or just learn more?

Kristina Jean 51:56

For sure. So, I'm on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, it's all Kristina Jean Medium, and it's Kristina K R I S T I N A, and my website is kristinajeanmedium.com

Jannecke Øinæs 52:12

Thank you so much for coming to the show, and for your wonderful, beautiful healing work.

Kristina Jean 52:18

It was so nice being here. Thank you.