The Secret Impact of the Mother Wound! With Dr. Lotte Valentin

Dr Lotte Valentin 0:00

We are entangled in so many ways with our ancestors, and we think that it doesn't matter, but guess what? It does. And we know from other studies, they've been following the Holocaust survivors, and they can see that trauma is actually passed down on the genes, on the DNA. So see how, even though we think that we're not connected to those ancestors before us. We're connected via DNA, and we're connected via quantum physics, and then we're connected ancestrally, also to our own experiences that our own parents, or whoever we were raised by, came from. People haven't spoken to their mother for 10 years, and then all of a sudden, now they have a great relationship and talk every day. And the only thing but that happened was that that client, that child, resolved, the mother wound. They were the only ones that did the healing, but other people that are connected to them are also changing because they did the healing. You shift your energy because you're healing. You feel different about yourself. You feel different about your life. So how do we heal the world? All we have to do is heal ourselves.

Jannecke Øinæs 1:14

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Dr Lotte Valentin 1:32

Thank you so much.

Jannecke Øinæs 1:35

I'm excited to have you back. We had a lovely conversation the last time about your two near death experiences. And you were an atheist before today, you are a medical doctor, ancestral healing teacher, psychic medium, best selling author, and you have this lovely course about the mother wound that we're going to speak about today, because I thought it was so interesting to hear in actually a Norwegian interview and Swedish interview we just did about how important it is to look into our relationship to our mother and perhaps also father. So I wanted to learn more about that today, and it seems like this is part of your life mission as well. So can you share about Mother wound? What is that and why is it so important to heal?

Dr Lotte Valentin 2:29

I'm going to say the mother wound is something that's lurking in our subconscious mind that we are not even aware of. And the truth is that when we start looking at who our mother was and we start describing our mothers, we actually learn more about ourselves than we do about our mothers. So we come from mother, right? We We half of our DNA comes from mom, half of the DNA comes from dad. So you're linked to her that way. And you can say, you know, you might look like her, you might have the same hair color, skin color, etc, but what we know is that we also pass down behavior and trauma on the DNA, but not only that, right? So then we have our own experiences of growing up with that mother. So ancestral healing really expands to everybody, all your ancestors, and even you know, friends of the family. But where does it all begin? It all begins with mother, because we come from mother. We spend nine months in mother's womb, and then we come to the earth. And a lot of our issues that we think is our partner's issue, or we think it's, it's our dad's fault, it actually comes back to being a mother wound.

Jannecke Øinæs 4:03

And what about the Father wound? Is that equally important as the mother wound? Or is the mother wound the most important and the first thing you should heal?

Dr Lotte Valentin 4:13

So everything always begins with a mother wound. So before you start healing other things are going deeper. Typically, you always have to heal the mother wound first, and this is why I'm going to I'm going to be creating other courses as well, but the first one that I been teaching, and I've been teaching several other courses about ancestral healing, but it always begins with a mother wound, and it's the first thing you always have to heal the mother wound, because you can't go on and heal the other layers of the issues that everybody carries issues before you go to the mother. So even if you say, like I did, I had a lovely mother. I love my mom, and when I actually. Studied ancestral healing. It is a form of counseling, but the way I work with it has become integrated with spirituality and shamanism because of my two near death experiences, and I have a very different view of how and why it is also that we're carrying the different ancestral wounds. So that all relates back to to my own near death experiences and what I experienced during those events. But when we look at, when we look at our life, and I'm going to say that one of the really common issues that when I work on one on one with people doing ancestral healing, so a really common issue that I see a lot is women that say, you know, they don't feel seen and heard in the relationship, and they're doing everything, and they're doing the dishes, they cook all the meals, they clean the house, they raise the kids, they work outside the home, and They're not. They feel like they're not being recognized or seen by their partner. Typically, I already know that they had a very lovely mom, that the way they earned the love from mom when they were little was by not speaking back to mom, not raising their voice to mom, helping with the dishes, setting the table, cleaning the room, and you're almost trained to be a people pleaser in many ways. And then you grow up and you do all those things that you were taught to do the right things as a child, and now you do all those things in your life with your partner. And I'm going to say this probably relates more to people who are in their middle age versus the people that are in their 20s or 30s, because they're part of a different generation. But people that are middle aged, you know, 5060s, 70s. Now they, many of them, were raised in that era where the woman was trained to if you're going to find a man in your life, you have to be this way, and you have to do everything. And then they grow up, and they get married, and then they're not happy in a relationship because they don't feel seen and heard, but that's because they came from that, and that's that's a mother wound that they're not it's not the partner's fault that they're not being seen and heard. It's because they are taking that relationship that they had with their mother and they're transposing it on to their partner, and they're expecting the partner to behave the way mother behaved towards them when they were little, saying, Oh, you did such a good job. You set the table. Oh, you know, you're a good little girl, right? So this relates to a lot of women that are in their 50s and 60s. And then we have the other camp where women said, Oh, I have the most terrible mom. I definitely have a mother wound. My mom, you know, had problems with alcohol, or she just wasn't a good mother. She had a lot of PTSD. She was mistreated as a child herself. And then you get the mother that she was never mothered herself as a child, because where she came from, she could have grown up during the war. Her mom might have passed away. She was sent to an orphanage. She was raised by an aunt and uncle. She wasn't loved and cared for the way she needed to be cared for. So what happens to that person is they grow up, but they've never been loved and cared for the way they needed to be. So how are they supposed to nurture you, the client or the child? Because they were never nurtured themselves, so they lacked that skill. They don't know how to nurture they don't know how to be there for someone else. And then if they have a lot of PTSD and they were mistreated as children. They may have, you know, drug dependencies of different kinds, and then the result is you were never seen and heard. You didn't get that love. And then what happens is that the pattern continues. Then you have children, but you were never nurtured, just like mom was never nurtured. And so you do the best you can to be the good person to your kids, but see how it takes generations to to resolve these issues. And then we have, you know, the third scenario. There are many different scenarios where you have a mother and she is she's great, she's very loving. She takes care of you. She hugs you, she reads you stories, she bakes you cookies. And she's a great mom, but your dad, he has problems with alcohol. He tends to be drunk every evening. He yells and screams at your mother, maybe yells and screams at you. And as a child, you look at that and you say, I I reject you, Dad, I don't like what you're doing. And I can see you, Mom, I see how you're suffering. And dad is always just drunk. You're doing everything. But as a child, you know our subconscious mind is, you know those tapes that run in our head that. That we we just don't know how to turn off, because it's the subconscious mind. You know, your conscious mind is only you know, five or 10% your subconscious mind is all those tapes that play in the background. And as a child, when you say,

Dr Lotte Valentin 10:14

Oh, I don't like what I see that I reject you. I am never going to do that. And to your mom, you say, I love you so much, Mom, don't worry, I'm going to help you carry this through life. And then you grow up, you get married. And guess what happens? Many times that girl that grew up in that household marries someone just like dad, the father she didn't like, the father she rejected, but she brings that back into her life. And why do you bring it back? Because it's an unresolved wound. It's an unresolved issue. It was never resolved between mom and dad. That was never resolved between you and your father. And you would think now most people think it's my father's fault, right? And that's the wound you're carrying, the father wound. Well, to a certain extent, it is, but the truth is that you merge with mom. You're repeating mom's life. Your life is just like your mom's now. You're suffering just like mom did. You're married to an alcoholic, just like mom was. So you're repeating a pattern that your mom did, and that's why it's a mother wound, because that comes back, because it's an unresolved issue, and so you repeat the patterns of your parents. And this is and this is why you know when you look at ancestral healing, you inherited things. And we can talk about how we inherit it on the DNA, but then it's also our lived experiences that we had with our parents and aunts and uncles and everybody else, right? That's going to affect who you are. And then we have the quantum entanglement of which, you know, I talked about my in my near death experience, and how we are all connected. What, what you do and say in this world is reflected out right and then reflected back to us, right? So we, you know, we care karma, karma from our past lives, things we did wrong. That's, you know, you can see these kinds of things in your astrological chart. But also, you know, we say somebody, you know, if you go on social media, you'll say somebody did something, mean, they threw an egg on the car, and then immediately, one minute later, something happens to them or their car, right? Karma, right? But I'm going to say there's a lot of that, even in our relationships, how we act towards other people, our thoughts that what we do and don't do, it all resonates out. It's like a ripple effect through the universe itself, where our actions are not innocent, our thoughts and actions play a difference in everybody else's life, because you're connected to everything else. And we could see that on the people that had won the Nobel Prize back in 2023 the three physicists that I don't know their names, but how they how they prove the the interconnectedness of the atoms. So, even so, even if two things are connected, let's say you have two oranges, and those two oranges are lying on your kitchen counter, and then you have two other oranges that are in your bedroom. Now, neither of those oranges were bought in the same grocery store. They came from different places. They have never met these oranges. And then you take one orange from the kitchen, and you take one orange from your bedroom, and you put them next to each other so they touch in the living room, those two oranges have now met right there. They're meeting on your living room table. Well, the other orange that's on your kitchen counter and the other orange in your bedroom, they're still in their original place. They have not met. But guess what happens? They are now entangled because they used to be next to the orange that's now in the living room, right? Both of them, both of those oranges, were next to the oranges that are in the living room, so now they are quantum, physically entangled in that all right? And so that's pretty much what they showed with the the people who won the Nobel Prize with the atoms. So it doesn't matter that those oranges that got left behind in the bedroom and the kitchen have never met because one pair they met, the pair that they were next to met in the living room. They're now entangled. So when you think of that in ancestral healing, it doesn't matter that you never met your grandmother or grandfather that is now in the spirit world that passed away before you were even born. Because guess what? That was your dad's dad or your mom's mom. They were entangled with them. They came from those parents. You are now entangled with your grandparents, even though you never met them. Because say, I'm saying it doesn't matter where you are, because that entanglement is still there. So. We are entangled in so many ways with our ancestors, and we think that it doesn't matter. But guess what it does? You know, we can see that too on, you know, there have been studies done, scientific studies of how we get entangled with our ancestors. So that was one study that was called inter what was it called intergenerational inheritance of ancestral odor, fear conditioning, and it was a study that was done back in 2013 and it was a study that was led by Brian Diaz at the Emory University School of Medicine. And they took mice, and so they gave an electric shock to mice, and then every time they gave an electric shock, they smelled like a cherry blossom smell. So the mice, of course, got scared of the cherry blossom smell, because they said, You smell that you get an electric shock. Then they took the sperm from those male mice, artificially inseminated the female mice so they had never met. They just took the sperm, put it in the female mice. The female mice give birth to their little baby mice. The baby mice are now afraid of the cherry blossom smell, even though they had never smelled it before or been around it, because it was transferred on the sperm, and we know from other studies, they've been following the Holocaust survivors, and they can see that they've identified gene markers like fkbp Five, I think was one of the first genes, and they can see that trauma is actually passed down on the genes on the DNA. So see how, even though we think that we're not connected to those ancestors before us. We're connected via DNA, and we're connected via quantum physics, and then we're connected ancestrally, also to our own experiences that our own parents, or whoever we were raised by came from. So it's it's more than one way that we get interconnected, but the things that happen with a mother wound is it could be anything. You could have a physical disease. You could be scared of sounds. You could be scared of animals. You could be scared of the dark. You could have problems with your relationships. Why is that I'm on my third marriage. Why is it that it never works out? What is it that I'm doing wrong? Well, maybe we should take a look at the ancestors and see what went on there and and that's why a lot of things that a lot of hardships and a lot of struggles that we have in our life, that we think might be it's bad luck, or I can't believe I'm marrying the wrong person. I keep meeting these people that can't that can't see me, right? They can't see me and hear me. As soon as I hear that, I'm gonna say Mother wound. It's most likely a mother wound. That's the first place I'm gonna go. And that's why it's so important to take a look at where we came from. Because many times I think we grow up and we're like, Okay, that was great, Mom, you know, I'm going to give you flowers on Mother's Day, kind of thing. And people don't really take a look at where mom came from. What was mom struggles? Well, once you start looking at that, you start seeing it yourself. And many times, you know, when I work on one on one with clients, they tell me the problem, and they'll say, you know, I have this problem, like the relationship, which is so common and I don't feel seen and heard, which is also really common. And then I said, Tell me about your mom. And then they said, What was your relationship with your mom and dad like? And literally, they can hear themselves saying that the issue with our mom and dad's relationship is literally what they came into the session saying this is the issue I have made my partner so many times. We are literally just repeating a pattern, right? It's an energetic pattern that our ancestors experienced, and it could be, you know, even a fear. So if you have a fear, let's say you have a fear of sirens. I love the one with the sirens. Fear of sirens.

Dr Lotte Valentin 19:11

Let's say your daughter or you have let's say you have a fear of science yourself. So you have a fear of sirens. And you have never been in an accident. You have never had a traumatic event where the firefighters came or police came or ambulance came, so it doesn't make sense for you to have a fear of science, because it's not your own lived experience. It's coming from somewhere else, right? But where is it coming from? And that could be, you know, the grandfather that fought in the war, or your grandmother that the sirens went off. They grew up in World War Two in Europe, and the sirens went off and they ran to take shell out there, because the airplanes came in to drop the bombs. And every time the siren went off, they thought, This is it. This is the day I die. Well, that's going to recode their epidural. Genetics and their DNA and now their offspring, just like the mice are going to come into the world and say, Warning, warning, right? The mice will say, cherry blossom, smell. Watch out. This is dangerous. Well, here comes your grandchild, Warning, warning. The sirens are going off. This might be the day I die, right? Because that was, that's what was downloaded to the next generation to help them survive. So see how things, you know, sometimes things don't make sense. We have fears of things, but when we start looking at the ancestors, we can see the connection. But again, everything starts with mom. That's why the mother wound. Because we have to look at the mother first, because we spend so much time in mother's womb, and then we come out of mother. And even silly things like being a preemie, I was separated from my mom at birth, and I was in ICU as a baby, or I was born, and just like myself, I ended up in the hospital. I almost died. Guess what? I was separated from my child. I was separated from all my children. I gave all my children the mother rind. Where did mom go? Right? And so it creates that fear, but those fears then translate into different things when we become an adult. But it goes back to literally, infancy. You know, where we left the cry in the crib. We cried and cried. Nobody came, and we shut that off, and now we feel alone in the world because we never received that love and care as infants. So some, you know, sometimes we don't even have memories of what it is. But by by, by looking at what we know, we can say, oh, that's where it came from. So the mother wound, course, takes you through different examples of, you know, what does a mother wound look like in your life? What are the most common things? You know, I give probably 20 different examples of what does it look like for you, and how does it going to show up in your life? And now, how are we going to fix it? Right? Because sometimes we can identify it. Now, how do I heal it? Right? That becomes for the first step is always to figure out why it is that we're struggling with the relationship or fears or disease or whatever it is, and but then, once we figure out where it's coming from, now we have to heal it. So the heal so I take you through in this course, how to identify it, what does it look like? And then how do we create healing for it? And so I take you on what I call the shamanic meditation journeys, because my the way I help you heal it is when we go into that subconscious mind. How do we access that subconscious mind? How do we let those memories come to the surface? Well, everything is out there, and we can all access it. We're all we're all intuitive, right? And many times when we just close our eyes, or we listen to a meditation, and I walk you through in this meditation to help you, you know, have those memories surface, or even have the aha moment come to the surface saying, Oh, now I see it. Now I can understand why I struggle with this issue. And then I take you through the next phase of now, we got to create healing for it. And you know, how do we create a healing sentence that we then say back in our mind or out verbally, out loud, and then, you know, the course ends with, I'm taking you on a healing journey to create healing. So another shamanic meditation journey to create that healing. And in is what I call a soul journey. So I do the talking, you know, in the meditation to help people, because some people can't, you know, readily or easily come up with the words. So all they have to do in the meditation is I say, Okay, now say the things that you have, you know, come that have bubbled up to the surface. Mom, now I understand why it is I'm having this issue of not being seen and heard with my partner. It's because you were such, you know, a loving mom and you taught me what what was correct for the era that I grew up in. I was supposed to be this people pleaser, do everything for everybody else. But now I can see this is just a mother wound. This is what you did, mom, and this is what you taught me. But now I can see, you know, I'm just transposing this onto my partner, and I don't have to do that anymore. I have to learn to create boundaries. I have to learn to to say, to speak, my voice to be heard and say, I need help. I need you to help me with these things. It's too much for me, but we're not raised to create boundaries. And I also have, like, a whole session module on how to create boundaries and helping people understand that we go through some polyvagal things, you know? How do we deal with the memories that come up? How. Can we calm our nervous system in this process? So I really take you from from the beginning, and I take you through all these different modules, and it ends with connecting the dots of how, how we're all interconnected, and how to create healing for it. And then we do, you know, like what I call like a master healing soul journey to create that healing. But what happens to people is things shift right? We shift inside when we create that healing deeply, deeply inside of us, because it's when we understand why it is that we're struggling with things that we can truly create healing. Because if you, if you create if you say every night when you go to sleep, I wish that my husband could see me. I wish that he's going to do this. Well, it's probably going to do some good, but things aren't going to shift until you truly gain the understanding create that aha moment within yourself and say, Now I see it now. I understand why it is that this relationship is the way it is, because this is where I came from, this is what I experienced, this is what he experienced, etc, etc. And when we create that awareness, that's when we can truly heal, and that's when things shift in the universe.

Jannecke Øinæs 26:20

Yeah, I've also come to discover that when it comes to healing, it's super important to look at your relationship with your father and your relationship to your mother. I remember you told in the other interview we did about your near death experiences that you saw a grid around the world, and how that shows how connected we are together, because maybe you can shine some light on the sole purpose of doing these healings with our mother and father, and especially the mother, and how karma plays into this, and how we're all interconnected, and especially connected to our ancestors.

Dr Lotte Valentin 26:59

Absolutely So. During my second near death experience, I was shown a grid around the Earth, and I was told that everything on earth is connected to each other, but everything on earth is connected up to this grid. And literally, what that has led me to is how, you know, in the School of like Buddhism, there is something called indrasnet. And indrasnet is literally what I saw, what I experienced. But on each there, on each node of the net is, is like, on the node there were like glittering stars. So I call this the silvery glittery fishnet. When I when I was shown this during my near death experience, and there were like glittering nodes on the net. Now, if you Google grid around the earth or indrasnet, you're going to see that. Now indrasnet is the philosophy that on this net. We're all interconnected, but we are the nodes on indrasnet, and we are reflecting out to the other nodes on the net. But while we reflect out, you know, we're also reflected back to us from all the other nodes, right? So what you reflect out also comes back. But when you reflect out now, you reflect to me, and I reflect back to you, right? So this constant mirroring going on right indrasnet, but we literally are nodes on indrasnet, because we are all interconnected, and we can now start to see it right via quantum physics, Vea, DNA, and our own actions. And when we, you know, say karma, right? That is literally the interconnectedness. And I say life is like a boomerang, right? What you throw out, and that Boomerang is going to also come back to you, right? So when you're not being nice to someone, guess what? Karma, right, that's the boomerang coming back, but that that is everything that we do and think, right? It reflects out to the universe and people who have taken my course and or worked one on one with me for ancestral healing, the most miraculous things happen, right? Where people haven't spoken to their mother for 10 years, and then all of a sudden, now they have a great relationship and talk every day. And the only thing but that happened was that that client, that child, resolved the mother wound. Because when they resolved that mother wound and create that ha experience, it heals. And now everything shifts. They were the only ones that did the healing, but other people that are connected to them are also changing because they did the healing. And it's the same thing with kids. You know, parents who say, I haven't spoken you know, my daughter cut me off, or my son cut me off, and I haven't spoken to them in years. I'm completely estranged. So. And I've had several occasions where, like, a week or two goes by and I get an email and it says, Guess who just called me? That child that I haven't spoken to in, you know, three years or five years. So something happens that those people, that mother, that child, doesn't know that that person did the healing. But there's something that shifts right, and that is that interconnection as interconnectedness. We are all connected. When we shift, they feel it. It's not any different than when you pick up the phone and you call your best friend and your best friend and you get a busy signal, and your best friend then texts you and says, I just try to call you, but your phone, you know, it went to voicemail. Same thing you you think about each other at the same time. It's not any different than when you're a parent passes away, or a loved one passes away, and you say, I feel them. I feel like they were here. Feel them in the room, right? Because we truly do. You know they're still there. It's just they don't have their body. But it's not any different with our experiences and people. I had a client once that said, I she I did a one on one session with her, and I got an email, like a month later, and she said her they had grown up in a dysfunctional home. She had one brother, and they had a family reunion, and the brother had said, I don't know what you're doing, but I I know that you're healing. I can feel it. And because of that, I have now started counseling. And he was working on healing it, and he, you know, that was his, the path for him, but it is incredible. And she was like, I haven't told anyone that I did this session, that I did this healing, but still, her brother came out and said, I don't know what you're doing, but you're healing, and I feel it. So there, you know, there is that miraculous connection. It's just like, it's really not any different from if you walk into a room and somebody is mad in that room, you walk into that room and you say, Oh, I don't know what's happening in here, but everybody's on their tippy toes, right? Something's going down, you feel that energy. This is not any different, because when you heal, you shift your energy because you're healing. You feel different about yourself. You feel different about your life because you created that aha moment for yourself so that you can heal and that's all you have to do. So how do we heal the world? All we have to do is heal ourselves. That's all we have to do. Just focus on yourself. You can't heal your partner. You can't heal your mother, you can't heal your child. It's just like we can lead that horse to water, but we can't make the horse drink. It's exactly the same. But you can heal. You can go drink the water, right? You can't make the other person drink the water, but so you can heal yourself, and that's all you have to do, because when you heal other people will feel that shift.

Jannecke Øinæs 32:58

Yeah, I've always believed that myself, that we can't change others. We can only change ourselves. And speaking of how we're interconnected, I'm having so many woo hoo experiences with my boyfriend. The other day we were he started talking about something he just thought about and I said, I just thought about that. And he said, I thought about it when we were bislinking around that corner down there, and I was like, that's when I thought about it. He is an agnostic. He doesn't believe in life after death, but he is experiencing more and more synchronicities. And he's like, What is going on here? And it's just so interesting when we have, like, direct experience of telepathy or just tuning in, or we never know who's sending. What am I the sender? Am I the receiver? But it's so interesting when we start to notice it, because I think when we put awareness to it, then it happens more as well. Now I did want to jump over to the healing part. Uh, can we also fall into the trap of feeling like we need to heal forever, and that's what we work so hard, hard on doing, like healing, healing, healing. We're never quite there.

Dr Lotte Valentin 34:16

I'm going to say that's a different experience for different people. So I think it also has to do, you know, what did we incarnate? What experience did we incarnate to have in this life? And for some people, it might be, you know, when I turn 52 I'm going to do this healing, and then that's it. Woo hoo. Now I'm free. I'm moving on to my next part of life. And I think for other people, it's a life, you know? I mean, it's a light everything is a life journey in the end. But I think that part of it can be, you know, karma, of, you know, paying off past life karma. Because I had an astrologer once tell me that, oh, I can see you were sick, and then in the in your chart, and it was during this time period. And then. You get well around, let's see around age 44 and I said, Oh my gosh, yeah. Like, spot on. That's exactly what happened. And I said, How can you see that in the chart? And the astrologer said, that's when you paid off your past life karma. So I think, you know, there's more to it than we think. And so I, you know, when you look at it, I needed to have that experience. I needed to have my two near death experiences. I needed to be sick for a long time because I paid off my past life karma. But it also served a purpose for me in this life, because then I was supposed to go to medical school, and then I was supposed to work as a healer, but I'm also supposed to work spiritually, spiritually with people, because I had my near death experience. So I'm here to merge science and spirituality, and in a way, because that is my life experience. And if I look at my past lives, I was a healer, I was a medium, I was a psychic. And in this life, I'm really just combining all of my past lives into emerging them all. So I came to this world to integrate science and spirituality, but that is exactly how I look at healing an ancestral wound, right? So people I know that, like the shift network, if you're familiar with that, is a big organization, like when they promote my courses, they'll say, you know, Dr Lottie is one of the most visionary and integrative ancestral healers of our time, because I have both sides right. I have the science side. I'm a medical doctor. I went to medical school. I'm very scientific. I brought was brought up that way, but then I had my near death experiences that open up this whole other side of me. And I became a professional medium and a psychic and a medical intuitive, but I'm integrating it all right? I understand the integration of the scientific portion with the spiritual component, which is very unique, you know, it's a very unique path that I'm on where, you know, in the beginning I was petrified of talking about my near death experience, because I figured every every colleague was going to think I was a complete quack or crazy, right? Because here I am coming out of medical school. But now I understand that this was really the the meaning of it all from the beginning, it is an integration of bringing spirituality and science together in order to create healing for the world. But I'm also going to say I really do feel that. I mean, there's lots of men actually, that take my courses, but I'm going to say the bulk of the people are always women. And I feel like there is this movement or this change here on Earth, where a lot of the women are stepping up to the plate to create healing. It's almost like there's a lot of women that are here on Earth, and we came to help heal the Earth. We help. We're here to step into the divine feminine, to bring the divine feminine qualities back to the earth, because we are in in this very destructive path when you look at the world and the global economic wars and and power struggles that are ongoing on our Earth, but it's almost like a lot of us women have incarnated to bring that divine feminine and the healing qualities back to the Earth, because it's such a movement in many different ways, of women stepping up, big, you know, becoming leaders in our society, but also women stepping up to create healing, to doing the doing the work. But when that one person steps up to do the healing, that woman, right? Think of anybody that's given birth for number one, all she's gives, you know, she heals her whole ancestral lineage, but even women that didn't give birth, because it's not just about that, right? It's also healing that ancestral lineage to create a better future, to create a better earth. Because ultimately, we raise consciousness by creating healing for everybody, for Earth itself, for humanity, for the animals, for the trees, for everything, because everything is interconnected.

Jannecke Øinæs 39:10

Yeah, I'm going to jump a little bit, even though it's very, very relevant to the conversation. I heard you speak about this, and it made so much sense in another conversation that you sort of spoke about healing when it comes to that some people heal from something, maybe a technique, a method, maybe it's crystals, ancestral healing, regression hypnotherapy, while others are not being healed by it, perhaps they die and they're not being healed, even though they try all these things. And then you said, Well, we have different life purposes, and we're not supposed to heal from the same and that made so much sense, because sometimes we can get. Views like, why is this working for some but not others?

Dr Lotte Valentin 40:04

Yeah, that's your own incarnation, your own life path, what you came to experience. And you know, being a medical intuitive and a spiritual healer at the same time as a medical doctor, a lot of times I will get patients that say, oh, you know I can heal this. I know, you know, I can meditate and I do yoga, and I eat a healthy diet, and I do all these things, and you know that that's not going to work for this person, because sometimes, you know, if they have cancer, for example, sometimes chemotherapy and radiation, that is actually how they're going to heal, versus somebody else, it's the celery juice or the carrot juice or the meditation, or the the, you know, life regression, whatever it is, but it's going to be different. It's going to be a different we we all have a different purpose. We're all here for a different reason. And the same reason people say, Oh, I don't like to take pharmaceuticals, right? And I'm going to say again, it depends on the person. For some people, that is the best option, because they're going to react to every herbal supplement I give them, or every homeopathy. They don't do well with homeopathy. They don't do well with acupuncture. They don't do well with herbal, botanical medicine. They actually respond the best to pharmaceuticals. And then you have other people that can't take I've tried every pharmaceutical, and I came to see you because I'm hoping you can help me. And it's a nightmare, right? They react to every pharmaceutical for them, it's a botanical or an herbal medicine, right? And everybody's different, and that's why you can't say that. You know, my friend did this, or my sister healed this way, or my aunt healed this way, because you don't know what's going to be right for you. You're going to have to figure that out many times yourself. You know, what is it that works for you? And sometimes it's a trial and error that people have to go through. And that's, you know, maybe that's their incarnation. Is to figure that out. Maybe because they're so resistant to to botanical medicine, but they had to react to every pharmaceutical before they would try the botanical, and then that's the right thing for them. So again, every everybody's path is different. We're all here to learn different things.

Jannecke Øinæs 42:09

Yeah, really come to that that I don't think there is one size fits all. And if someone is saying, I have the one healing technique that will work for you, run the other way, because you we never know what will heal others and what will work for others. Even if it has worked for us, it doesn't mean that it works for others. And I think that's part of the mysticism that's part of the path for us to find our own way and perhaps search for it. And perhaps there's a meaning with that search as well. There's always a deeper meaning to our our our paths. And, yeah, I think that's part of life, also finding what is my solution, what is my way,

Dr Lotte Valentin 42:49

is that we all have right, the unique path. And you know, when you heal, I'm gonna say there's always three components to healing, because you have to heal the physical body. And the right thing for the physical body could be a botanical medicine or pharmaceutical, whatever it is, but you got to help the body heal the physical component, right? And then you have the emotional component. There's always an emotional component to why we're sick and in the first place. And then we get the spiritual component, the ancestral component, the life path, component, component, the karmic component, right? Why did we incarnate? So in order to create healing, we kind of have to look at, you know, sometimes it's not just one thing. I want to say it's never one thing. It's always a combination of healing the physical, healing the emotional and healing the spiritual. And that's why i i love ancestral healing so much because it it helps so much to create that healing, whether it's a physical disease or whether you're just struggling emotionally or anxiety or whatever it is, but that's why ancestral healing is, I'm going to say, always a part of creating healing in your life, because once you create that aha moment, you're going To understand so much more about yourself, who you are, why you're here, and what it is you need to heal. And sometimes that can be, you know, ancestral healing can be there is a physical component to it, why you're struggling with the physical once you understand why you have that which could be an ancestral issue, or it could be something you were born with, or it could be an environmental issue. You were exposed to chemicals. You live next to a factory, right? There's so many different reasons why we are why we struggle. Your tissue could have been laid down incorrectly when you were in the in in the womb. You might have a hole in your heart. Now you have a stroke. Nobody knew you had a hole in the heart, right? And then they figured that out. They go in, they fix it, and put a mesh there. And now no more strokes, right? So it could be something you were born with So, but everything you know ties back into who we are in this life, and what we're here to learn, and where we came from. So I'm gonna say ancestral healing is part of of. Healing your life.

Jannecke Øinæs 45:02

All right, so this has been very enlightening. What is the deepest spiritual insight you received in your two near death experiences?

Dr Lotte Valentin 45:14

I'm going to say the deepest spiritual insight is that we when we die, we are still there. So that's, you know, the fact that we don't, we don't spiritually, we don't die. It's just the body that dies. And then the second one would be that ultimately we're all just one, because we are all connected. So it's that interconnectedness of all the things on earth and maybe all the things in the universe, all the people, all the plants, all the animals, we are all connected to each other, and then we are all connected up and out to this grid, but that grid probably also extends out to other planets, right? So the earth is just a node on another net, and we are all nodes on the net on Earth, right? So it's just like a, kind of like a holographic thing, where everything ripples out. There's a ripple effect of everything that we do and say and think and in our own lives is going to affect everybody else on Earth, but that ultimately becomes one consciousness and affects the rest of the universe as well.

Jannecke Øinæs 46:28

Wow, everything affects everything. What is your perspective on the big shift of consciousness we find ourselves in being a psychic

Dr Lotte Valentin 46:41

I'm going to say there is definitely a shift in consciousness, and I think it's accelerated now with the ability of technology, where we can connect with other people on Earth, and we can see that in what's going on on earth today, and how different parts of the world are standing up. People are protesting in different parts of the world about similar things, and people are coming out and standing up. I'm going to say for human rights, the rights for all people. We're all people just having a different experience, but ultimately, we're all one. And so there is a shift in consciousness, I'm going to say globally, where we are raising consciousness and becoming conscious of people in other countries, not just our own neighborhood, and that's because of technology. We are connected, you know, we are social media, and the social media and the internet mostly to people in other countries, and we care about what's happening globally, you know, for the human race. So I think there is an upshift in that consciousness, where we're all becoming more aware of of each other as as a human population on Earth versus just a human population in your town or city.

Jannecke Øinæs 47:58

And some of us have been saying that there is a split coming with a split in consciousness, a lower consciousness and a higher consciousness, in a way, not that there is a higher hierarchy, but still, like those who are continuing in the old pattern, so to say, and those who are raising their awareness, is that something you see as Well, and will humanity be okay.

Dr Lotte Valentin 48:22

I'm gonna say we are. We're already in that split. So we have people who are not as consciously aware yet, but then we got a huge part of the population on earth that are consciously aware. But when you look at how we are interconnected, right? We are interconnected via the nodes on this grid that I saw during my near death experience, and the nodes on the net, but because we're interconnected. So those of us who are raised, they're raising consciousness. We help the other people raise consciousness. So the more of us that create healing for ourselves, we do our ancestral healing. We create healing for ourselves. We create healing for our families. But think about it this way, every family member in your family that you're connected to very closely, think of all the people they know. Think about it. You know, your brothers, your sisters, your children, all their friends, they go to school, all the people they come in contact with. You're connected to, you know, millions of people because that grid we're all interconnected in the end, but when some of us do the healing work and raise our own consciousness, we help lift the consciousness of everybody else. So I'm going to say, overall, we are raising our consciousness. It's not that it's going to be a split and we're fighting against each other. No, the people who are here to heal the world, we're going to continue to raise consciousness, and we're going to help the other. We're going to bring them with us as we raise consciousness.

Jannecke Øinæs 49:48

Well, I was very, very grateful to have you here today, and I hope that everybody listened and watched was inspired to look more deeply at the real. Relationship with especially their mother, and perhaps forgiving the their mother as well, if that hasn't happened and has been an issue. Because I also think that many times we can go into victim hood and blame our parents like is their mistakes, but when we do the spiritual journey, we sort of discover that I have to take responsibility, you know, for the healing in my own life. I can't just judge my parents for what they did wrong, because they actually, from a higher perspective, did their best that they could from their consciousness and level of consciousness, so you're doing beautiful work, amazing work, and not a coincidence that you ended up being a doctor and doing what you're doing today. And I think that is the case for everybody, that there's not a coincidence our lives, like there is a deeper meaning with our lives and that we can actually trust the universe. That's something I'm leaning into. So thank you so much. And I have a few questions that I've asked all my guests, and I've asked you before, but I'll ask you again, what is self love to you, Lotte,

Dr Lotte Valentin 51:16

I'm going to say self love is completely accepting yourself the good and the bad, and just you know, truly accept yourself, even if you don't like the way you look or the way you know your thoughts. Everything is always as it should be. It's everything is perfect, even though it doesn't seem perfect, but everything is always as it should be, and it's it's part of having a human incarnation. And so self love would be completely accepting who you are.

Jannecke Øinæs 51:52

And what is the deeper meaning of life from your perspective,

Dr Lotte Valentin 51:57

I would say the deeper meaning of life is to have an experience and let your consciousness and your soul grow. And as we have these experiences, we our consciousness shifts, our our soul grows right, and I call it the seed bag. You know, we pass, we leave our bodies in this life, you still have all the seeds from everything you learned in this life. And I'm going to say, you bring this seed bag with you to the spirit world, and then you come back into the next life. You still you bring your seed bag with you. You got all those experiences and knowledge from your past life, even though you can't, you know, put your thumb on it, but you're just really good at things, things come naturally, certain things, and that's your past life experiences that you bring back in. But each life you're just here to kind of raise your consciousness and move to the next level, next soul level.

Jannecke Øinæs 52:56

And let's say I'll drop a link below to your mother wound course that I really want to take myself and then I'm really excited to one day. And where can people find you? On social media if they want to be more inspired or learn more?

Dr Lotte Valentin 53:13

Yeah, my website is dr, Lottie, D, R, L, o, t, t, e.com, and if you sign up for my newsletter, you're only going to get probably about two a month, and you'll get a free meditation if you sign up for the newsletter. And then all my different sessions that I offer, medical, intuitive, ancestral healing, mediumship readings, messages from your spirit guides, all those sessions are on the website, and you can just book a session online. And there's also, you will put a link in the in the podcast notes that will take you to the mother wound course, and that's an online self study course. And then on social media, you just look for Dr Lottie Valentin, I'm on Instagram and Facebook and YouTube.

Jannecke Øinæs 54:05

Lovely. Thank you so much. We just did a Norwegian and Swedish interview. This has been a beautiful marathon in a good way. Thank you so much, Lotte for your time and coming to the show today and for your work. Yeah.

Dr Lotte Valentin 54:17

Thank you so much. Always a pleasure to be part of your podcast you.