“The time is now for people to believe in themselves. The time is now for it to be okay to be great. People in this world shun people for being great. For being a bright color. For standing out. But the time is now to be okay to be the greatest you.”
—-Kanye West
Self-love and confidence
Self-love and confidence are new concepts for many people to attach their name to. Most people don’t even know what confidence really is. Confidence is an expectation in a positive outcome. Self-love allows you to give to yourself the thing that is most important. Most people will not be able to jump straight into loving themselves on day one, it’s a process. It’s easiest to find positive aspects of yourself when you are in a state of appreciating a lot of external things. The better you get at appreciating, the easier it becomes to appreciate yourself. As you become strong at thinking about what feels good, your confidence and self-appreciation will go up naturally. When you feel good, feel free to tell yourself “l love you” until you start to believe it. For many, self-appreciation will feel like a lie at the beginning, but it’s not that it’s a lie, it’s just unfamiliar. It’s a new concept to many people’s neural patterns.
How you feel and what you think is what you are heading toward.
When you remember that you are the most important thing in the universe, your worthiness goes through the roof. You charismatically shine in every situation. Your clarity and self-assuredness must be powerful when you KNOW this to the core of your being. All people are born knowing how very good they are. You will find resonance with who you are by knowing the perspective you hold, that your main focus is you. How you feel and what you think is what you are heading toward. It’s a powerful acknowledgment that may take focus to apply it to more and more areas of your life. Have fun with it. There’s no rush now that you know the worthiness that has always been within you. There is more love for you than there are words to describe it.
Cement the following two thoughts at the forefront of your brain:
Me and the way I feel is the most important thing in the universe AND I am my number one fan.
Be your number one fan
Your work is to find the expectation that things are about to go exceptionally well for you. Taste the sweetness of your own success. Being your number one fan is the best thing you can do. No matter how praising or not praising others are toward you, it’s massively important to practice appreciating and believing in yourself. Do so as much as you can. Do it MASSIVELY. Do it comprehensively. Do it unendingly. There is no greater gift to yourself and those around you than your own love. You were born knowing it.
For many people, it’s an adjustment at first coming back into the knowledge of your own awesomeness. You are hugely and beautifully amazing. They will begin to taste the clarity you exude. The richness of your self-love. Meditate. Go where you’re happiest. Do the most exciting thing you can think of. If you move consistently in that general direction toward your well-being, you’ll find a way to your own solid self-appreciation and actualization. You can’t lead those you love, who are wanting your newfound happiness, by being unhappy yourself. You can show them the way. Everyone around you can achieve bliss and you should shine your appreciation toward them and their brilliance as you grow your own. It will shine back to you in quadruple the effect. I promise. Then you are a bright shining light, rekindling all who meet you. You are magnificent.
Your happiness is completely dependent free on what other people do
There is another side to this as well. You have to let people know that your happiness is completely dependent free on what they do. What they do and say are irrelevant, because you are in control of your own mind and are guiding your own emotions. Your happiness is your job and they don’t have to walk on any eggshells. They can do anything they want because you are the loving amazing being that you are and what you want them to do is what makes them unbelievably happy. What a relief it is to be told that! In doing so, they will feel the power of your worthiness spill out and they will begin feeling their own worthiness. It’s a wonderful gift to tell others to do what feels right for them and that your opinion of them is not dependent upon their actions. That is the true definition of unconditional love. It’s what everyone is craving and you will be one of the Angels who is feeding the world.
Zachariah Bourne is a personal development coach and author of the upcoming book “The Most Important Skill”. Zachariah is a positivity enthusiast based in NYC.
